understand the differences...

I once read something like this, and I want to read it again:

It's the middle of the day during a long drive. He's sitting at the wheel, cruising along. She's sitting in the passenger seat, reading, glancing up now and then at the passing scenery. Suddenly, she turns to him and cries, "Talk to me!"

She's not stir crazy; he's not ignoring her. They're just living the classic divide in communication between men and women. She's more discussion-oriented; he's all action. One reason for these differences stems from the way relationships develop during childhood...

http://curiosity.discovery.com/topic/gender-gap/10-ways-men-women-comminucate-differently.htm

and this too:

https://www9.georgetown.edu/faculty/tannend/sexlies.htm